How do you know you’ve moved on?

Not went to a cottage party for a weekend and had some fun. Not went on a few exciting dates with someone new. Not kept yourself busy on your socials creating new content. Those events have kept you distracted. Distracted from grieving. Distracted from healing. I mean TRULY moved on. No baggage. No regrets. No growing older and saying to yourself: “Damn, I never dealt with this.”

People often describe grief as passing through 5 stages. The 5 stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. A friend of mine the other day mentioned grieving is also cyclical – you might find yourself returning to old places, old friends. Comfort… makes sense.

I would imagine with (truly) moving on comes growth. To work your way through challenges and to come out the other side…

Different.

Healed.

Weathered but not bitter.

Wiser.

I ask again: How do you know you’ve moved on?

Would a measure be the relationships in your life? Who was in your life before the challenging event(s) and after? More importantly, who showed up during the difficult times? When it is all said and done, can you keep the same people around? I guess it depends on the expectations you’ve set for yourself, doesn’t it? What are you willing to settle for?

What do you deserve?

Growing up, an adult in my life always said: Good enough isn’t. If you say to yourself “this is good enough” aren’t you short-changing yourself? Look around. Who do you see? Is this who you deserve? Is this good enough?

Is it time for you to move on?